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Basically a scientific confirmation of what I have heard from my Chinese ex girlfriend It is stupid and dangerous to marry a rich man no one becomes rich by being nice to people, most rich husbands hit their wives, have serial mistresses, spend their money for themselves and have terrible character flaws I think that this book should be a part of school curricula in an abridged version, both for boys and girls to destroy the terrible myths of Cinderela, Prince Charming and other terribl Basically a scientific confirmation of what I have heard from my Chinese ex girlfriend It is stupid and dangerous to marry a rich man no one becomes rich by being nice to people, most rich husbands hit their wives, have serial mistresses, spend their money for themselves and have terrible character flaws I think that this book should be a part of school curricula in an abridged version, both for boys and girls to destroy the terrible myths of Cinderela, Prince Charming and other terrible socially destructive myths often called fairy tales , which serve only to divide the society and allow psychopaths to proliferate The elimination of those destructive memes which attract and keep those women inside such marital arrangements would certainly be welcome If I d be in a topmost legal council I d recommend for surgical sterilization of the abusive husbands abuse and rape is a well known animal procreation strategy, however we have evolved past the age where it was needed or acceptable, hence those people should be sterilized whenever possible, as it will definitely improve the genetic make up of mankind Eye opening book about abuse within marriages, concentrating specifically on wealthy families I read this 17 years after its publication and it seems dated in focusing solely on the wealthy wife and ignoring same sex unions or battered men Also, very little focus on getting help for the perpetrator Despite that, there is a lot of great information in getting the victim to realize the situation they are in and how they can deal with it I hope the author will update this book After I read Liane Moriority s Big Little Lies, she referenced this book and I thought I d check it out It is definitelyof a case study, based on statistics, and research It took me awhile to read because it wasn t necessarily riveting But the information was well displayed and she makes a very valid case about domestic violence in upscale homes It s definitely an issue that is often hidden yet no less tragic Worth perusing. Finally someone breaks the consiracy of silence Domestic Violence is not just a poor mans problem. A very good read I would recommend this, especially to counselors in training and women in general This is a population that goes undetected, due to the implicit shoulds that surround the myth of money and marriage happiness What was astounding was the number of women who wereeducated than their husbands who were verbally and physically abused by them I know after what I have seen in internship, this book is a very useful addition to my library It serves to remind me, as Shug Aver A very good read I would recommend this, especially to counselors in training and women in general This is a population that goes undetected, due to the implicit shoulds that surround the myth of money and marriage happiness What was astounding was the number of women who wereeducated than their husbands who were verbally and physically abused by them I know after what I have seen in internship, this book is a very useful addition to my library It serves to remind me, as Shug Avery said in The Color Purple, us just want to be loved For some women, that love comes at the expense of self esteem, brought about by an emptiness that money, marriage, even advanced degrees could not fill A highly relevant read whose literary quality deeply contrasts its tacky cover. I was turned on to this book from The Husband s Secret and, though it was an interesting read, it was muchclinical than I anticipated Clinical meaning this seems like an excellent resource if you re a therapist but otherwise it s a lot of skimming over minute facts and report findings In all, there were some fascinating facts about children from abusive marriages, a list of common traits in the abuser AND the abused, and would be a good resource if you re concerned about a yourself or b I was turned on to this book from The Husband s Secret and, though it was an interesting read, it was muchclinical than I anticipated Clinical meaning this seems like an excellent resource if you re a therapist but otherwise it s a lot of skimming over minute facts and report findings In all, there were some fascinating facts about children from abusive marriages, a list of common traits in the abuser AND the abused, and would be a good resource if you re concerned about a yourself or b someone close to you Otherwise it s very frustrating to read about how rich men tend to get away with beating their wives and children because they have money sigh &FREE PDF ⇠ Not To People Like Us: Hidden Abuse In Upscale Marriages ✗ This important book brings the ignored population of abused upper income women to light, revealing for the first time the depth and severity of upscale abuse How is it possible for a highly educated woman with a career and resources of her own to stay in a marriage with an abusive husband How can a man be considered a pillar of his community, run a successful business and regularly give his wife a black eye That we can even ask these startling questions proves how convinced we are that domestic abuse is restricted to the lower classes InNot to People Like Uspsychotherapist Susan Weitzman dramatically challenges this assumption It is the first book to explore a previously overlooked population of emotionally and physically battered wives the upper educated and upper income women, who rarely report abuse and remain trapped by their own silence Weitzman draws on an in depth study to document the shocking nature and incidence of abuse among the wives of professors, physicians and CEOs many of them professionals and executives themselves With keen insight and profound sensitivity, she reveals the unique path taken by the upscale wife the early warning signs, the dilemmas and decisions, the dangerous desire to cover up and maintain appearances The first book to condemn the legal and social service system for failing to recognize domestic violence among upper income families,Not to People Like Usoffers crucial information to help women find their way out of abusive relationships and toward safety and independence Domestic abuse shelters would not be a good fit for a woman from an upscale marriage Even the size of her house is a barrier to anyone knowing how she is abused The privileges her children enjoy music lessons, etc deter her from leaving Mainly, her destroyed sense of self worth even if she is a professional in the corporate world keeps her from leaving She can t talk to anyone, since her women friends are married to her husband s co workers From the outside, her marriage looks idyll Domestic abuse shelters would not be a good fit for a woman from an upscale marriage Even the size of her house is a barrier to anyone knowing how she is abused The privileges her children enjoy music lessons, etc deter her from leaving Mainly, her destroyed sense of self worth even if she is a professional in the corporate world keeps her from leaving She can t talk to anyone, since her women friends are married to her husband s co workers From the outside, her marriage looks idyllic She may dress to conceal the bruises I just happened to pick this book up over the weekend and could not put it down My sister in law has to read it for one of her psychology classes and it is utterly fascinating The author has interviewed numerous upscale women who are women that are educated with college degrees, have their own job and financial security but yet are involved in abusive relationships and can t or won t get out The stories that are told are heartbreaking and I don t understand the logic these women think but I I just happened to pick this book up over the weekend and could not put it down My sister in law has to read it for one of her psychology classes and it is utterly fascinating The author has interviewed numerous upscale women who are women that are educated with college degrees, have their own job and financial security but yet are involved in abusive relationships and can t or won t get out The stories that are told are heartbreaking and I don t understand the logic these women think but I so intrigued I had to finish the book tonight